Their Importance

Yes, everyone is born with at least one of them. They are crucial for the existence of the human race. They force us to level up. They even turn most of us into shy human beings/ Mr. Nice guys who live behind closed doors and nobody hates them, and when they die 🪦 people say that he/she was a very nice person.

Where can I find one for myself 🍭 Haters are found in Your friends, family and work circle. Don't think that Your haters are a thousand miles away on Your social media. Ok, somebody hates you after seeing Your Instagram post or Your YouTube video and the most they can do is write a bad comment. This hater is a 1000 miles away from you. Can their comment do anything to you? the answer is No, But it really shows you how much he or she burns in his own hate and jealousy. What I want to point out to you is that Your real haters are very close to you. Remember that advice that never share Your advances and progress  like a degree or certification at work or people will start to cut ✂️ you down. It's called tall poppy syndrome 🧬 which stands for attacks, criticism, resentment and sheer dislike for a person with any success or advancement.

#Pro-tip: lead them astray by misdirection Imagine an amazing archer, he hits his target even with his eyes closed, but what if the target that was set up was a dummy target, a scare crow, a decoy, you just got away my friend. You know what to do from now on.

Their Effects

They turns us into being secluded from every good that this world has to offer and challenging ourselves to become better, but rather, in turn, we become consumers of social media and turn ourselves into couch potatoes 🥔 who only move to go to work. they i.e. our haters turn us from players to observers and that too in the back rows, so that they make sure we don't even motivate the other good players in the society to ever stand up.

You Left the Game, Now What?

The world wasn't thinking about you when you were gone, the thing about haters is that they only hate you as long as you shine ✨, once you cover Yourself up, and go to sleep, they find a different star to be jealous of, and you, you are just past, history, an oldie  that they are no more afraid of as you have no charm left in you. Your absence might have just paved the way for someone else to take Your place, the second best, Yours Truly(whatever Your hater's name is). Now they can be great in the workplace, the friend circle, the networking group. You leaving Your presence gives the second best the chance to be the best.

Silver Bullet

Why let this vampire 🧛🏼‍♂️  grow by sucking Your confidence and aura, why don't you shine like the supernova 🌠  that you were born to be and kill them with Your shine (watch Stardust on how to kill a witch with your shine). The Haters are gonna be there no matter what, the main question is, are you gonna be there or not?

let me give you a quote to either boost Your morale or rather just to say Hello 📞  to Your sad reality:

"there are people holding their breath waiting for you to fail, make sure they suffocate”-anonymous (if Your hater dies because of you, don't worry, God will give you a new one)

The jealousy and the rage one has against you is enough for them to burn 🔥  themselves in it, as a punishment. Let them waste their time and energy, and you keep on chasing higher goals. Now take a moment and be jealous of someone, does it harm him or her? Exactly, my point, you have no power over them. This is the same case with Your haters, they have no power over you other than to just keep on burning down more in their rage against you and consuming Your content to see where you are in life.

Why does it happen?

who are the people who have the most haters?

a) it’s either the successful: who can’t be touched or

b) feeble people: people who can be touched and will be touched

now this is something that we know and we feel but we are just resurfacing the realities, you will be stepped on if you are weak while no one will pick a fight with someone who even looks strong 💪🏼.

Can a bully be bullied?

Being a bully is better than being the bullied, both are bad but the bullied will live a life of shyness and not being bold ever enough to follow his or her goals. The bully knows that he has to put up a better show than others this will make the bully will have the guts and the need to show the world that he is strong and will make stronger moves.

more moves = more mistake = more clarity = more success 🎯

It’s better to be strong willed than being weak and waste Your time thinking about being harmed. many people want to look and live a vulnerable life to be spared by people and to have sympathy on them. They want to portray themselves as the target and presume not to be hit.

When you interview someone, don’t you:

• like the confidence in a person?
• like to see strong and confident employee take charge of things at work?

its not about physical strength although that too is a deterrent but it’s about telling people that they can be harmed even without touching them. Have a Strong Persona 🗿

Focus on something that Your Haters cannot reach that aspect of You.

For example if Your hater exists at work, they will consume Your mind even after work and that’s their true win. But if you come home to a loving family and you leave Your haters out of the door and not think about them. That’s Your win. Let them think about you and waste their time ⏰. You can also spend time in other activities or hustle on something else that makes you fulfilled other than where Your haters are and rejoice that Your haters cannot touch that facet of Your life. Alex Banayan in his book the The Third Door🚪 calls for creating contacts, add to it things like:

• join a gym 🏋🏼
• a triathlon team 🏊🏼 🚴🏼‍♂️ 🏃🏽‍♂️
• a toastmaster’s club 🗣️
• networking club you would grow Your network above Your haters(but that shouldn’t be Your intention rather to meet new people)
• a religious gathering ☪️ ✝️ ✡️
• a book circle 📖
• start a YouTube channel 🎥
• a side hustle online/offline

This way you are always thinking about improving Your body shape, running time and busy with other metrics. Actually research shows that a good body makes you happier than someone with more wealth💰. Busy preparing for the next speech or clothes to meet up people. Improving Your spirituality and knowledge. Busy with analytics of Your social media as a business or a blog to focus on. Even having more and more time to think is a great blessing as it focuses people to come up with better ideas.

In The End

and if you are back bitten, feel good to have a presence in  Your absence, not many people are that great to be mentioned behind their backs.

“If you don't have enemies, you don't have character.” Paul Newman

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